So, I'm sure you've seen (or will begin noticing now) the "Pregnancy Fun Facts" statuses that have been popping up on Facebook. Women are randomly posting a few facts about their pregnancies as their status. The amount of facts shared is related to a number assigned to them by a friend. I saw one for the first time the other day and read it with curiosity, excitement, and, obviously, jealousy. How wonderful it must be to have a pregnancy that results in happy, living children! I don't mean that sarcastically at all. There's a sense of innocence to these posts that I envy.
For the last several days, I have wondered if I should create one of these statuses myself, but I held myself back. Not because of my usual "hatred of the norm" attitude, but because I wasn't sure if people would want to read about my pregnancies since the first one ended in tragedy and the second is still only halfway through. But when it comes to "normal" baby related activities, I want to participate so badly in all of them. I want to be normal. I want to be the happy-go-lucky mom who can talk about her babies without taking a sharp emotional left turn. So, I am going to share that here.
1. I got pregnant with Kenley the first time we tried in June of 2012. Mike and I had been married almost a year, but knew we wanted to start a family quickly. It took me three cycles of trying to get pregnant with Bean, which happened in August of 2013.
2. With both pregnancies, the first trimester was very hard. With Kenley, I threw up about 5 times. Bean's number is closer to 10. Regardless of actual vomiting, I had food aversions and nausea constantly from about week 7 to week 14. Nausea with Kenley lightened up faster than with Bean. Even at week 17, I am still very sensitive.
3. I lost about 6 pounds my first trimester when pregnant with Kenley. Overall, I gained 18 pounds. I lost almost all of it within a week of her birth. With Bean, I have lost a little less than 10 pounds, but am starting to level out and hopefully, will start to gain. I expect the weight gain to be similar.
4. Kenley moved like crazy. I felt her for the first time around 13 weeks. I know that's early, but I remember very clearly sitting on the couch, leaning forward, and feeling three little pops. I wasn't sure then if that is what I really felt, but as time went on and I felt her more, I knew that was it.
5. Bean is much more mellow than her sister. I haven't felt her very often, but I am just now starting to feel her more. When I do feel her move, it's not pops, but more of a wiggle. Sometimes, I think maybe my stomach is still numb in places from the C-section.
6. Kenley was born on February 25, 2013 at 36 weeks and weighed 5 pounds, 1 1/2 ounces. She was 19 inches long and had a boatload of dark hair, just like her mama. Bean will be a scheduled C-section at 36 weeks as well, which puts her birth near April 20th, 2014.
7. I really didn't like being pregnant very much. The only things that made it worthwhile were those quiet mornings where Kenley would move and wiggle and I would poke her back, giggling as she tickled me. I loved to feel her move and to picture what each of her parts were doing in there. I am looking forward to those moments with Bean.
8. My pregnancy with Kenley was very typical and normal right up till the end. So far, Bean is healthy and normal as well.
9. I had a really hard time finding names. I didn't want my daughter to have a name like every one else, but I didn't want a crazy "flower child" name either. When I first stumbled across Kenley, it was under the boy section. I'm still working on Bean's name. It's hard because I already went through - and rejected - so many names when naming Kenley. And I don't want to give Bean a "Kenley cast-off".
10. I admit, I did love not having to ever suck in my stomach. Now that I'm starting to show, I'm letting it all hang out again. Nice!
11. Maternity clothes are the most comfortable clothes in the world. When I was pregnant with Kenley, I joked around that I would continue to wear them for the rest of my life. I really see no reason to revise that statement.
12. Kenley was supposed to be the first of two. She might now be the first of three, but we will cross that bridge when we come to it. I'm no spring chicken. Plus, I really just want to focus on getting Bean here safely and dealing with her when she does.
13. I took two pregnancy tests with Kenley. Obviously, I took the first one to confirm I was pregnant. A few weeks later, I took the second one simply because it was just sitting in the box and I felt like it. Still pregnant.
14. I have more ultra sound pictures of Bean's first 17 weeks than I do of any pictures of Kenley, including the 5 taken in the hospital. I don't really feel guilty about that, though. It's just the way it is.
15. When I found out Kenley was a girl, I made pink frosted cupcakes for my class. This year's class still doesn't know about Bean. I think they think I'm just getting fat. I have no plans to make an official announcement to them any time soon. Probably after Winter Break sometime when it becomes more obvious.
16. I am doing all the regular pregnancy things with Bean that I did with Kenley. I am writing to her in a journal. I am tracing my belly on canvas. I talk to her. Sometimes, I sing (badly) to her. I don't care about "getting too attached." She's my baby. I'm already attached.
I could probably continue forever. I love to talk about my children. But, that's enough for a Fun Fact Post. Maybe you learned something about me. Maybe you already knew all these things. But, I feel better being able to participate in something "normal" with my babies.