Love is a partnership. It can not truly exist without two halves working together. Love is thinking of what’s best for the whole before considering what each part wants. Love is compromising me for you and then you for me. Love is looking out for the other person and recognizing that this other person is on your team and wants what is best for the team. Love is BEING a part of that team willingly and unconditionally.
Love is trusting. You place your heart in someone else’s hands and they place theirs in yours. You trust in them to take care of your heart. To hold it softly and carefully. To protect it from harm. You trust in them to do this job without fail – and you do the same for them.
Love is passionate. Love creeps into your thoughts even during the most mundane parts of your day and stirs up excitement. It quickens your pulse when you least expect it. It sweeps you off your feet and carries you away. And you let it – because where would you be without it?
Love is timeless. True love creates butterflies throughout the years, not just at the beginning. New love is easy to feel. It’s the “settling in” love that you have to pay attention to. It’s subtle, but still there. That tingly feeling you get when you’re around the other person. It’s a familiar tingle, but it’s a spark still strong enough to start a fire if we let it.
Love is growth. You change and grow in the face of love. Who you were before love it is not the same as who you are during it, or who you will be after it. Love changes you – and you change for it. Love is growing with each other, for each other, and because of each other. Love is knowing neither one of you is the same person as when you first met, and that’s okay. Love is having a solid appreciation for who the other has become, and what they have helped you become. Love is being excited for how each of you will change and grow together. Love is knowing life is not stagnant, and you should not be either. Every day should be a new opportunity to make yourself a better person. Love is two people becoming better together.
Love is daily. It is important to make time for each other in the day to day routines of life, even if it’s just 5 minutes to talk about one thing that made you smile, made you sad, made you angry, or made you think. You have to set aside time to nurture your relationship, to talk to your partner, to connect with them. Sometimes, it’s a fantastic date night. A dinner, a movie, and…whatever else comes your way. Sometimes, you might get lucky and get a whole weekend of togetherness…or GASP…an entire week of vacation. Those are important traditions to keep going. Weekly, monthly, yearly as needed. But, a connection must be made EVERY day. Whether it’s a long walk, a short talk, or a post-it on the fridge that says “I love you. Have a good day”. Connections don’t just happen. You have to put forth the effort to make them happen – to continue to make them happen.
Mike, being a man of few words, sent her basically the same sentiment, but in a much shorter format. Thinking back to my wedding day, it was a wonderful day not just because it was uniquely mine - and not just because it was also a rockin' good time - but because it was the moment my heart had been waiting for my entire life.
I have learned more about myself, my beliefs, and my surrounding circle over this last year than in any of the years leading up to it. Almost everything in my life is completely different now than it was less than 12 months ago. Except for one thing - my view on what it means to love someone. When faced with tragedy, you are shaken to the core. As you rebuild, you either keep or discard the pieces of yourself that have fallen apart. The pieces you choose to keep may be tattered and torn, but they are sturdy and strong and true. That's why you keep them. They become the corner stones of your new self. The piece I wrote for my wedding shows probably the only remaining part of the "old" me that still exists today. And I am so very glad that has not changed.